HOW THE SUBCONSCIOUS CONTROLS ALL FUNCTIONS OF THE BODY?

Whether you are awake or asleep, the ceaseless, tireless action of your subconscious mind controls all the vital functions of your body without any need for your conscious mind to intervene. While you are asleep, your heart continues to beat rhythmically. Your chest and diaphragm muscles pump air in and out of your lungs. There the carbon dioxide that is the byproduct of the activity of your body's cells is exchanged for the fresh oxygen you need to go on functioning. Your subconscious controls your digestive processes and glandular sections, as well as the other wondrously complex operations of your body. All this happens whether you are awake or asleep.

YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS IS YOUR BOOK OF LIFE

Whatever thoughts, beliefs, opinions, theories, or dogmas your write, engrave, or impress on your subconscious mind, you will experience them as the objective manifestation of circumstance, conditions, and events. What you write on the inside, you will experience on the outside. You have two sides to your life, objective and subjective, visible and invisible, thought and its manifestation. Your thought is received as a pattern of neural firings in your cerebral cortex, which is the organ of your conscious reasoning mind. Once your conscious or objective mind accepts the thought completely, it is transmitted to the older parts of the brain, where it becomes flesh and is made manifest in your experience.

HOW TO UNBLOCK YOUR REAL PERSONALITY?

An individual’s personality is a passport to his or her success, from all points of view. What do we usually remember about people? More than their physical beauty, the clothes they wear or their voice, we tend to retain an impression of their personality. The real personality is an interior quality, or more accurately an aura of energy which emanates form the deepest part of a person’s being. A recent study conducted in the USA shows that 85 percent of people’s success depends on their personality. The remaining 15 percent corresponds to their skills and experience in their chosen field of endeavor. Many successful people have an implicit understanding of this fact. Take politicians, for example, most people vote more for a candidate’s personality than for his or her political views. They are voting for an image, often carefully constructed for by the media. So 85 percent of your success depends on your personality.

CREATE YOUR OWN METHOD

Self-hypnosis is a solitary art. You are alone with yourself. You work on the most intimate part of your being-your subconscious. It’s difficult for an author to come up with a method that corresponds exactly to the tastes and needs of everyone. Try them, combine them to suit your own taste, and adapt them to your own personality. In this way, you can create your own method. One variation which is very useful and effective is best done in a seated position. Get comfortably seated, either on a couch or on the floor, in the cross-legged position. If your eyes close and you cannot open them without instructing your subconscious by using the ‘count to five’ technique, then you have succeeded. I am now going to suggest a few more techniques. Actually, there are a host of techniques designed to induce a state of self-hypnosis. If you find any elsewhere, feel free to use them. Finding one that works for you often depends on your personality, your taste and your preferences. Here’s one designed for people who like nature, gardens, and flowers. It is called the ‘classical rose’ technique.

DIFFERENTIAL RELAXATION

To get used to feeling the difference between tension and relaxation, we’re going to make use of certain physiological phenomenon. When a muscle is kept fully contracted for a few seconds it must, immediately afterwards, relax completely in order to recover. This period of automatic recovery can be felt, developed and controlled. And that is what you are going to do. At first your muscles might feel a little painful. It’s a little like starting to practice a sport you haven’t done for a long time. This is perfectly normal, so don’t worry about it. If you find the exercise too difficult, or if your doctor advises against it for health reasons, try concentrated relaxation instead. You can get someone to read you the instructions that follow, or you can tape them yourself and then play the tape whenever you want to do a relaxation session.

MENTAL HEALTH AND PERSONAL GOALS

Though we differ in aspirations, it is possible to set down of attainments that most of us would consider desirable. Undoubtedly, most of us would agree that pleasure is preferably to pain, which being productive is pleasurable; that being effective with people is better than being awkward with them, that enjoying one’s job is better than loathing it. Few of us want to suffer from compulsions, and it’s safe to assume that most of us would like to avoid the torments of paranoia. Most of us want to be able to express love, and to be able to enjoy being loved. More often than we think, our problem is not inability to get people to love us, but inability to open ourselves sufficiently to experience their feelings for us. It is also important to most of us to be able to express kindness, and in that way make ourselves feel deserving of the sympathy of mankind.

PERSONAL VALUES AND PERSONALITY

You owe it to yourself to decide upon a code of personal ethics which you consider humane, to adopt it, to reconsider it from time to time, and to strive to uphold it. You won’t always win friends by acting in accordance with your code; in fact, you’ll antagonize people from time to time. The study of how our actions affect us brings inevitably to the need for a code of ethics. We cannot live without some value system; and for the sake of our own stability we must adhere to the ethics dictated by whichever system we choose. Since our code of ethics contains our most important attitudes toward other people and toward ourselves, we ought to consider it carefully and reconsider it often.

DON’T APOLOGIZE FOR YOUR COMPLAINT

Telling the person you’re sorry you had to disagree with him is apologizing for what you said in good faith. Apologizing is asking the other people to brace you so that you won’t fall down under the stress of disagreeing with him. Doing so imposes unnecessary burden on him; it will detract from the merit of your accomplishment, in your own mind, and renew your conflict about whether you had the right to say what you did. Among the invariable motivators for sarcasm are contempt and fear. Your contempt will predispose the other person not to confront him directly; you are intensifying your fear of him.

HOW TO MAKE A COMPLAINT?

Many people elect never to complain because they mistakenly imagine that anyone who objects to behavior is a troublemaker or a shrew. More often than not, these people have grown up under the domination of a haranguing parent, and they would now rather suffer nearly any abuse than risk resembling the parent. Still others withhold their complaints out of fear that their love is unrequited and that they’re worthwhile to the other person only upon the condition that they act compliantly. They go through life on topics, suspecting that their mate is waiting for the opportune moment to tell them that the relationship is over; these people stand ready to make immense sacrifices to maintain a harmonious atmosphere, on the theory that discord would give their mate the opportunity he is waiting for.

REHEARSAL

There can be immense advantage in rehearsing what we want to say if a given situation arises. If we’ve been snide or have allowed some comment to pass without expressing how we felt about it, and if afterward we regret our handling of the incident, there ought to be no embarrassment about asking ourselves what we would like to have said. In retrospect, we can sometimes identify where our difficulties stemmed form; and just as it would profit countries to look at history and develop policies which would guide them when in the heat of fire, it is often extremely helpful to discover how we’ve contributed to misunderstandings that could have been avoided if we’d expressed ourselves precisely and to the point. Of course, we wouldn’t want to rehearse our every comment to someone.